Tomorrow on Good Morning: are men more rational in love than women? Since I am in love, or in the first flourishes of a new romance (you didn’t need to watch Good Morning for that; we were in ‘About Town’ in the Sunday Star–Times last week, as photographed by Norrie Montgomery), I am sure that the lads will be on to me about this in the morning.
   I like to think I am completely irrational. Why not? There’s that high when you speak to one another that you like to repeat as often as possible. There’s a knowing that you cannot explain. When it’s love, you don’t know the reasons that you should even be together—you just are. It’s quite different from lust, too—something else we have to address on air. With lust, you never ask yourself if you see spending a lifetime with that girl. Unless you only have that night left to live.
   And what heck world would it be if we were all rational about love? Sure, it’s important to have shared values. Online dating can work when those values are important—for instance, on Conservativematch.com—but even those couples who get together find an extra spark. They meet, and something additional clicks. What the proportion is I do not know, but I can’t imagine it to be too high.
   You can’t date or court based on a list. People try to tick off things on a list, which I can accept to a point, but occupation, height, weight and financial wealth were not on mine (though they once were, which was probably why I wasn’t a successful man-about-town). I even learned that the list can be thrown out the window in the past as I found myself drawn to two smokers some years ago.
   But somewhere along the line, someone delivers to you a person who fulfils the criteria not on your dating list, but on one that is so much deeper in your subconscious. Somewhere in there is a criterion that can only be sensed spiritually and cannot be put into words. And you also suddenly remember that you had qualities you wanted that she reminds you of, and realize that someone up there has been listening for the last 20-plus years.
   What the heck world would it be if we were all rational about anything? Being human is being irrational: I feel, therefore I am. (Something to bear in mind even for those times I stay on topic on this blog.) Posted by Jack Yan, 10:32  permalink

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